It's Not About the " Other Person "

Some people think that a relationship is either good or bad because of an appearance of the other person, but do you even aware that life doesn't happen that way. You can't tell someone to the force of love just like - " I will give love only when the other person gives it to me!".

  

You won't receive anything in life unless you give it first! Whatever you give to others is what you give to yourself. It is totally not about the other person at all. It is all about you! yourself! It's all about what you are actually giving and what you are feeling in the relationship. If you gave love to someone and it's through kindness, encouragement, support, tolerance, gratitude or any good feeling.. It will comes back to you and multiplies itself and you will bringing love to every other area of your life include your success, happiness and career. But if all you gave is just only negativity to others through criticism, anger, impatience, dishonest or any bad feelings... you will be guaranteed that will receive that negativity back. It will multiplies itself and attracting more negativity which will effects the rest of your life! 

You know that you can change any relationship right now by looking for things you love, you appreciate and you are grateful for in that person. When you make a deliberate effort to look for the things you love more than you notice the negativity on things, then a miracle will take place. It will just appear to you as through something incredible has happened to the other person. But if it's the force of love that is incredible and because of that, it does dissolves the temporary negativity including the negativity in the relationships, all you have to do is just to harness the force of love by looking for the things you actually do love in the person, I believe that everything will change in the relationship.

  

  ~ JC ~

Every end is a new Beginning

Some people said to me that things happened for a reason as same as in our life issues and problems. Is it true that things really happen for a reason? I'm not sure. As in these years, there is some issues and problems that I couldn't let it go and kept it on me all the time. Sometimes it even effects my temper and my emotions. I came across some self help book, but to me it doesn't really help. It's been years now I'm having this issue and I've tried all kind of method to figure a solution out for myself. Recently this issue got worst and it really bothers me a lot.  I felt totally drained by this problem and its really effecting me a lot in this year. There is moments that I'm trying to find my inner silence to lead me back to the track out of this issue, but I couldn't get any silence as all the voices around me is bothering me way too much, so I've took a spontaneous trip away for a couple of weeks to get my mind of things.

Sometimes getting out of the comfort zone helps to forget or at least temporary distract my mind but I figure that spending some time alone might be a good start.. just relax and pampered my self.  I was gathering loads of information by researching and readings..people said that the first step to get over and deal with it is to take some time out, it will makes you feel more calm and not to think so much. But it wasn't that easy. Sometimes, some of the little things reminded me and the memories starts to flashing back. I try to not let it effect me and carry on the day with a smile on my face but inside is another different story.

So to try to clear my head I had tried what most people do normally. I had my head up and move forward, absorbs the sights, the sounds of the scenes and the things that is going on with this world. I felt independent and so liberated. I did whatever I want to do and not thinking of others. Im gonna treat my self better and love myself more than others. I do think before that I might needed a new environment, probably just a different one where I can be alone quietly, to listen to my inner voice or to loose myself and hopefully to find myself. But then I still find it is not helping at all. Thing's start to be drifted apart and seems like it can never comes to an understanding and I started to get frustrated and depressed day after day. Some older generations used to say there are 7 different stages that we will go through and dealt with on our life issue or problems.

• Stage 1 : Shock - where you're trying to figure out what happen and why the issue occurs in my life.
• Stage 2 : Denial - Where you keep telling your self that the problem or the issue isn't happening in my life, and this is not true.  
• Stage 3 : Isolation - Finally realise what is going on and how or why the issue or problem appears, then just want to be by yourself and doesn't want to share or talk. 
• Stage 4 : Anger - At this stage your feeling and emotions shifts to mad, frustrated where unable to find a solution and everyone besides you start judging and commenting, then emotionally starts to get annoyed and pissed off. 
• Stage 5 : Bargaining - At night when started to calm down and think over back on the issue that occurs, you will start to think and you'll missed the past where there is no worries, no problems, no emotion effects.
• Stage 6 : Depression - Well eventually falls into depression whenever or wherever the issue effects your soul, and totally lost control of it.
• Stage 7 : Acceptance - Finally this is the stage where I started to look back and knowing what my past is meant and what the future hoped. To overcome everything, I have no choice but to accept it and leave it in the past and move forward to live my life in a better way than the past.

I told my self Jas, there is just a couple days left to the end of this year, it is time for me to learn how to accept it and I just have to stop dwelling on the past and start begin a new chapter for my life for the coming year.. Better days are yet to come.

                                                                                                                                                  ~ JC ~

❧ Love, Trust and Commitment ❧

I truly believe everything happens for a reason and God has proven that. To me today I am very blessed to be standing here next to my best friend. Being apart from each other and sometimes out of contact while you where deployed made me realise that the amount of love and commitment I have for you. There are no doubts in my mind when it comes to how I feel about you even if you drive me crazy at most times.

     Never knowing when your coming here or going to be able to talk to you was one of the hardest things I've ever had to go through. You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you can be. Countless nights of crying and being worried and staying alone only made my feelings grow stronger.

With God by our side, I know we can make it through anything life gives us. I want to spend the rest of my life supporting you and taking care of you because even though I feel strongly need you in my life apart of me I feels that you need me too.  We started our relationship based on little promises where we linked our feelings together and try to be honest to each other that we cannot lie or break that bond. Just like little kids.. a promises that have been told means a lot more.

I know that I had made promises to you that I will always love and be faithful to you no matter how far you go or how long you're gone. I promised to love you when life seems easy and when life seems difficult, I will always & forever be there to laugh with, to cry with and will support and lift you up when you are down. I like the way on how you always put my happiness first. I've never met someone special who knows and understand  me as well as you do. 

You come across strong and tough to upset people but I know deep down I'm your weakness and I value those moments when you open up to me. I promise that I will not take advantage of that side of you. You make me feel safe and secure and I am truly bless to have you in my life. You are my best friend and now my closest one.  

~ JC ~

DO NOT EVER BOOK YOUR HOLIDAYS WITH "Lowcostholidays.com" !!

Today @ 19th May 2014.

Feeling great .. got news from work that we're getting off for 3 days straight. Something just came up my mind telling me why not get a short break away from work. There it goes.. Paris is the destination selected.

Knowing of couple websites able to get great deals for this short break and came across "lowcostholidays.com". Searching for affordable deals and just found one that suits me the best. So decision made and here goes the booking. Everything goes will while selecting the dates and choosing the accommodations for my trip. Once done then here goes the payment.

Here is the nightmare started!! Couldn't believe it when I received my confirmation email.. It tell's me that my flights has the wrong date. Really surprised and it is not the dates that I key into it for my travel. So immediately I rang into lowcostholidays.com and guess what happen, firstly one of the girl staff was really nice and she advise me that it was a mistake and she would be able to sort it out for me in couple hours and i will be receiving another new confirmation email with the correct dates on it without charges and will get refund for £45.00. I think that's fair and even if they didn't offer me the refund is fine. So she then hung up the line after advising me to wait for the new confirmation email that will be sent out between 5pm and tomorrow 9am. I've waited n waited till the next day morning.. Nothing come through my email.

@10.00am, rang "lowcostholiday.com" waited around 10mins for someone to pick up the call, at the end another staff name "Rebecca". Spoke to her and told her the whole issue again, but this time she said that she will sort it out and will email their other flight support team to sort it out for me and it won't take long.  She also made promises that said it will be solved as she will take control with my case and  ring me back to let me know what is the solution. But all this is just bullshit talk. I've waited n waited n waited till 3pm at the noon which is after lunch. I have to made another call to them but this time they put another girl staff to talk to me. More surprises shit that they gave me is they said that they have talked to their manager and they can't do anything b'coz I'm traveling in-between 7days? Hello?!!! I just booked this package yesterday and your staff told me that it will be sorted and now you ask me to solved it myself with the flight merchant. I was like "WTF!!!!" after all these promises and bullshit talk you advice me now that you can do nothing??? And need me to talk to the flight company myself? It's not my mistakes and it's your company mistakes and now they push back the ball to me!! and the worst is they just hung up on me. Fine then I'll try to made my call to the flight company. Guess what now.. I rang the flight merchant and try to arrange back the right time and they told me that my flights is booked from lowcostholidays and they should have rang them to sort it out instead of me ringing them. I was really annoyed and pissed off at the moment and I asked, could you help me to sort this and they gave me a news that yes but you have to pay extra €400 for the flights to get changed!!! What a ridiculous thing! I'm not going to pay another penny extra on it so they advice me to contact back lowcostholidays.com.  Fine.!

@4.30pm. Another call for lowcostholidays.com. Now a guy answer they call. The same amazing shit and promises they can gave which is " I'll look into this case and will contact back Rebecca and will ask her to ring you back! n hung up!" Till the end off the day they never even ring me!

What kind of customer service is this? What kind of shit service is this to provide for customer?! Not taking up any responsible on their mistakes, giving fake promises just to make you hung up the line, and pushing back the ball to the customer? Is this how you treat your customer???
I will never let them get away with this and will definitely made a huge compliant against them for justice ! They will  with the way that they treat their customer!

                                                                                         

                                                             

~JC~

~ Night Out ~

At work, we can't always choose who we work with. It could be a tough week and there is no communication or connection between each other.  So we all decided to go for a night out with all the team members that we work with. Here it's the time for some fun. So we all decided for a team night out. Here we go.. "The Mardyke Entertainment Complex" bowling, drinks n finger food .. sounds nice.

It's good thing to bond with your colleagues. I found it that we able to get to know each other outside of work and most likely can have a good grasp of one's characteristics ^^

Many people doesn't know that actually the game of bowling able to form or cultivating social connections to team building. When co-workers see one another outside of the office, the fresh context offers a good opportunity to strengthen relationships and I do agree that bowling is one of the most social sports and it's a great choice for team building. It could be also an ice-breaker for those who doesn't really get involved much with each other.


On that night, we all have a game in 2 teams and we all work out really good. Both teams are really enjoying themselves and it is very noticeable that there is such a good communication and teamwork in-between each of them. We also been rewarded another sweet pint for the top-scores on the teams. There is some finger food served during the game.

It's very noticeable that after a couple pints, the aim for the pins to be knocked down is more accurately and more strikes achieved.  Even after the game some of us already half drunk but we all really enjoyed ourself and will definitely arrange for another night out soon as we always use this quote in work  "We always work hard and play hard"



~JC~

" TRIANGEL " ~ The Guardian Angel of Love

 "Triangel " The Guardian Angel of Love. 

Triangel originated from a famous Italian allusion. 

In the times of ancient Rome, there was a kindhearted lady falling in love with a young man who was witched to be indifferent to the lady. 

The lady was so depressed and sit in front of the window crying day and night. 

Finally, her love had touched the Gods. 

They sent the "Triangel" to the lady which could make the witch appear in front of the young man. 

The young man realized that his true love was the lady and they had fallen in love again! Now, in Italy, girls like to place their Triangels in their rooms and let the Triangels bless them.

The hidden meaning of Triangel is glamorous. It symbolizes as the guardian angel of love.

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TRIANGEL 缘份天使 - 故事 

古希腊神话中（小爱神埃罗斯）有两支箭，一支金箭，一支银箭，金箭是用来帮助有缘份的人们，而银箭则是专门用来破坏缘份的，但是（小爱神埃罗斯）生性顽皮到处用银箭破坏人们的缘份，（爱和美的女神、阿芙洛狄蒂Aphrodite）为了使更多有缘分的人幸福的在一起，于是派出了一个天使来阻止银箭，守护人与人之间的缘份。这个天使就是“缘份天使”（TRIANGEL）。 

在意大利有这样一个脍炙人口的传说，相会在公元前二世纪的古罗马，有一位善良的女孩伊利雅和她的男朋友非常的相爱。后来，男孩被青蛙魔女的魔法所引诱，魔法使他渐渐地忘记了女孩。女孩伊利雅非常的痛苦，整日坐在窗口哭泣最后眼泪也哭干了，但是还是没办法使爱人回到自己身边，有一天伊利雅梦到一位老老，老者告诉她向罗马的物莱维喷泉祈祷可以得到神的帮助,第二天她就迫不及待的来到了特莱维喷泉（Trevi许愿泉）祈祷，真心的祈祷进行了两天两夜，然后她投下了一枚充满愿望的硬币希望神能够帮助自己，她的真情最终感动了天上的阿芙洛狄蒂，阿芙洛狄蒂令神鸟鹈鹕衔着这个---“缘分天使”，放在她的床前来帮助她，青蛙魔女看到“缘分天使”后终于露出原形逃走了，男孩恢复了神志又重新回到伊利雅的身边。

这只来自己意大利著名的高手工吉祥物“缘分天使”具说据有它有人，就能找到和她/他是有缘分的爱人，只要把Triangel,放在自己的房间，那么爱人就永远不会离开你!所以Triangel在世界各地深受情侣们的喜爱。情侣们将它放在自己的房间里，来守护着自己的和爱人的缘分。想让你心爱的人永远陪伴着你吗？你想让你心爱的人永远陪伴着你吗？那就把缘分请到你身边，让它日夜和守护着你. 

~JC~

❧ 友达以上, 恋人未满 ❧

有人说，每个女生的身边都有一个不是男朋友的男朋友。

最近，我能感觉到热量在我身边。 

很高兴再次见到他。甚至只是看他的眼睛还是要听他的声音。 

突然有一个很强烈的感觉. . . 我们之间的这种感觉能够做出这样的接触。

无论感觉可以持续多久都不要紧。

我知道，不单单只有我，但他能感觉到这一点。

只要我们在房间里一起，我知道他会采取它。

必要时可以重温回忆。

朋友的关系已经到达顶端，却还没有达到恋人的地步。

这是不是他们所说的

“友达以上, 恋人未满 ”

~ JC ~

“ 爱在心中 ”

有人说 . . . 

很爱很爱一个人的感觉. . .

需要很长很长的时间才能知道。

我们在一起，我可以放弃真个世界

只为了把我的世界全部给你。

爱一个人 , 其实很简单. . .

他你流泪，让你失望，尽管这样他站在那里

你还是会走过去前他的手，不由自主。这一切只是因为你爱他。

~JC~

Destiny . . .

The future holds great promise, your destiny is unknown,
but God is always helping and you're never alone.
Soar bravely toward your goal. Let nothing darken the way.
You can change yours tomorrow, if you seek your dream today.
The best years of life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own.
Do not blame them on anyone or anything.
You will realise that your actually controlling your own destiny.
When someone walk away from you. . .
Let them go . . .
Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you and it does;t mean they are bad
It just means that their part of story and journey in yours is over.

" Destiny is not a matter of chance. . . It's a matter of choice "

&

" Love is a choice. . .  not a matter of destiny. It is a choice that could be renewed each day "

~ JC ~

單戀雙城主題曲《很想討厭你》by 林夏薇 ~ Piano Sheets "G Major"

~ JC ~